This post is for you. Yes, YOU.

When I started to really do some research about women’s hair loss back in 2012, I found that there wasn’t a whole lot of information out there. There were some articles about the “newest medical breakthroughs” promising a new head of hair for (mostly) men, but next to no information out there for women.

It quickly became apparent that there was a TON of us out there experiencing hair loss, but so few wanted to actually talk about it.

I got the glimmer of an idea to start this blog, mainly because I wanted to connect with anyone who could understand. Women who could really relate to what I was going through. Women who care.

Women just like me.

I took a few pics of my head (eek!), took a bigger leap of faith, and dived right in. Corner of Hope & Mane was born, as was my relationship with many of you.

I wanted to put my story out there in hopes that those of you really struggling with hair loss might see me and understand that there IS life through this. I didn’t 100% know that I’d be in a happy place eventually, but starting this blog was a commitment to myself that I would get to a good place hair-wise.

I wanted to come out on the other side.

Really, I’ve done so largely because of you, dear reader. Your emails and blog comments have given me the strength to get to where I am today – you’ve all been so encouraging.

The stories you send me by email have truly been inspiring. I love hearing about how you took a chance and started wearing hair–and how much it has changed your lives (as it has mine!).

So, during this week of giving thanks (at least, for my American friends), thank YOU. Thanks for being there for me. Thanks for connecting.

Heck, thanks for giving me something to do when I’m bored (a new blog post, why not?).

Enjoy your families during the upcoming holiday and I’ll catch you all next week.

My Stylist Broke Up With Me (How I Cut My Bio Hair)

Yep, it’s true. My hair stylist broke up with me when she found out I started wearing supplemental hair. And to make it worse, she did it over text.

So twenty-first century, don’t you think?

How the process with her works is you call and leave a message requesting your desired appointment time, and then she has her assistant call or text you back confirming the time. This time, though, I had another question to ask her.

Lauren: Hi Emily, thanks for getting back to me. Tuesday at 5:30pm works for me, but I have a question. Does Vicki cut supplemental hair?
Emily: What’s that? Would Vicki know if I ask her?
Lauren: I started wearing a synthetic hair topper on top of my regular hair to help conceal my hair loss.
Emily: Is it fake hair or something?
Lauren: Yes. Would she cut it to help it blend?
Emily: Your regular hair or this new hair?
Lauren: Both would need cut.
[A good hour passes]
Emily: Hi Lauren. I spoke to Vicki and she doesn’t do that. Good luck!

And just like that, my three-year relationship with my stylist ended. I know that’s not super-long by any means, but I really liked her since she was an expert at getting my hair to my ideal color (I’ve talked about it before – no gold, no red, just kind of boring-neutral).

How I Cut My Own Bio Hair

I was really, really surprised (well, I was surprised but then not at all at the same time) that 1) her assistant didn’t know what supplemental hair was and 2) Vicki wasn’t even willing to try to keep a somewhat long-term client.

Since there are so many women with hair loss, I had assumed that they (and I say “they”, but I guess I mean the assistant) would at least know what supplemental hair was. Maybe it was the term I used, who knows.

Some stylists, too, seem to be nervous when it comes to cutting helper hair. I get it – I know if a mistake is made this hair doesn’t grow back. But, I have a need and I was bummed that it wasn’t being met. It was as if I had *finally* found my solution (hair!), but now I reached another stumbling block.

What’s a girl to do?

I became my own hair stylist.

It’s not perfect by any means, but it works. I’m also “blessed” because I wear my hair straight with some layers, so I use my bio hair as the bottom layer of my “do” and the topper just lays on top of that.

Check it out:

(Side note – seeing how long my hair is totally makes me think of the Amanda by Jon Renau. Check it out at wigs.com. I’ve tried this wig before and it looks exactly like my bio hair + topper.)

Aren’t you proud of me for using actual scissors this time (granted, they aren’t actual hair-cutting shears) and not manicure scissors? Eh, you make do with what you have, right?

For the record, most stylists can indeed cut wigs and toppers – I don’t think there are any skills necessary outside of the ordinary to do it (someone correct me if I am wrong!). The only consideration I’ve heard is that synthetic hair might dull scissors, so it’s recommended that stylists have a separate pair for cutting that kind of hair.

But, since hair stylist is unwilling to cut my hair, I have to make do. I think it looks pretty good for an at-home job.

I’m always surprised, too, at how much better my topper feels after I “fix” my bio hair. Even though my real hair is very thin and lifeless, it still helps to make my topper feel and swing better.

What do you guys think? Am I crazy?

They Say You Can Never Have Too Many…

…shoes, that is. Isn’t that a “thing” with most women? I know, back in the day, even though I only really rotated between three or four well-loved pairs of shoes, my closet was overflowing with them.

I still have a healthy shoe collection, but my focus has definitely been on hair. Much like shoes, no matter how happy you are with your current hair piece, you’re always on the hunt for something else. Because, there’s GOT to be something better out there. A better color. A better texture. Something more like our bio hair. THE ONE is out there, somewhere.

Right?

That’s one of the best things about wearing hair – you get to constantly experiment with and try on new pieces.

And if one option doesn’t work? Keep it for an “around the house” wig or topper. Wear it on weekends only. Cut bangs into it to try a new look. Or–if the website you buy from allows it–send it back for a refund.

When’s the last time you could say that about your bio hair?

I was going through my hair stash a few weeks ago as it was overtaking my bathroom closet. I always knew that is what I’d find, but it was still astonishing to look at it all laid out.

brown hair toppers and wigs

This, my friends, is 10+ pieces of what appears to be all the same brown hair toppers and wigs (nope, your eyes don’t deceive you, I know they look identical). Believe it or not, there are probably six different pieces here. Not including the three –you guessed it– brown hair toppers I just received in the mail.

While some hair loss sisters are constantly on the prowl for more comfort or more coverage, I guess you could say I’m on the hunt for more BROWN.

Is that sad?

I think we can all agree that color makes such a huge difference in how we look. For me, just a bit too red or gold immediately makes me look super-pale. I’m a neutral brown kind of girl (although, I did recently learn I can pull off warmer tones if there are ashy highlights to offset them), and I’m always looking for just the right shade.

My ideal hue? A neutral-ish brown (about a level 8, at least in the synthetic world) with golden blond highlights on top. But not too yellow. More caramel than butterscotch. A bit of ash. But not too ashy. It’s all so complicated, and why I was never happy when I got my bio hair colored, either.

It might be crazy, but I love my big ol’ collection of brown hair toppers and wigs. It represents so much to me. A few tears. A ton of trial and error. A bit of money down the drain (yikes).

Acceptance.

Peace.

Brunette Hair Toppers and Wigs

What can brown do for you (get it?)? So, SO much.